Sexable vs Wifeable

Just the other day I came across an interesting video where the speaker said that within the first seconds of meeting a man, a woman knows if she will lay with him. With us men the situation is a little different, they call us dogs for a reason, we are visual creatures. The moment a man makes an approach you have already been deemed sexable and if you are lucky wifeable. A lot of men make the approach sex on their minds, so the female has ten seconds to show she is wifeable, and don’t get me wrong the opposite is quite possible. Men are sexual beings, we have sex to fall in love, women love to have sex and this has been the underlying issue in most relationships throughout the years. So, are you sexable or wifeable?

It is hilarious how many of you may be thinking “wifey” and doing a happy dance in your mind. I don’t mean to burst your bubble but you got work to do. Haven’t you found it weird that the so-called gyalist always find themselves married to the so-called ugly girl? That is because in the long run, every man realizes that there is more to a woman than a pretty face. He was looking for something that he found in her. Don’t fall for “I don’t know what I am looking for”. What we are looking for you don’t have it or else we wouldn’t be looking. A man knows when he has found what he is looking for, his home boys know, the world knows. A man brags about a woman he sees a future with. Are you living the trophy life or are you the trophy wife? Who knows! That's for you to decide.

So what makes a woman sexable or wifeable? The very same things. There are various things that I could outline but I have compiled a short list of what stands out most when deciding if a woman will make the transition. In my opinion, the most important things are attitude, dress code, and being conversation-ready. These three things can make a major difference in how a man views a woman as a prospective long-term partner.

A woman's attitude can speak to her personality and how she is. As I stated before, men are visual creatures and have already decided that you're sexable so he approaches. In that first 10 seconds, he decides the type of girl you are and just how intrigued he will be. I am not going to lie, we love a fiery attitude but it should be humble. Not a loud and ratchet, that behavior will always be remembered and not in a good way. First impressions last. Smile a little, make eye contact, and say hi. Don’t behave like your crap and make a patty and if it can, keep it to yourself. No need to eye someone from head to toe in disgust and then ignore. Simply say that you aren’t looking for company. It can’t be that hard.

The same goes for the dress code. Men are very observant and will eye you from head to toe. How you dress and carry yourself will always determine how a man approaches you. A well-dressed woman will be approached with way more respect than a skimpy-dressed woman. Skimpy dressing and ratchet behavior only lead to one thing, sexable! Yes, the saying goes that men will look at anything once it has a kitty. That may be true, but some of these so-called dogs have been trained into respectable men. It’s not that we can’t be trained, but a man has to choose his trainer. A woman can’t change a man, the man must want to change. And a man only changes for someone that he needs. Someone who makes him better in every way. 

I also noticed an increasing trend in women, there is a lack of the ability to converse. Being conversation-ready is very high on the list of differentiating between sexable and wifeable. Have you ever sat with someone for 10 minutes (well in your mind) but hours passed and it didn’t feel like wasted time? That is conversation-ready, someone who can stimulate your mind, someone who knows about other things, than the latest party scene, someone who is interested in knowledge and knows about more than just herself, someone with a vision, a clear path to where they want to go. Men find that to be very attractive and it could be a game changer for women who want to be more than the “girlfriend”.

If someone tells you your attitude stinks or asks why you dress like that and only has one-minute conversations with you, the regular hi and bye. That’s because you aren’t showcasing wifeable characteristics. Now you know why you didn’t get that text or call for another date, even though you gave him a piece of the cookie. Cut the attitude, dress modestly, and try talking about stimulating things, It doesn’t have to be sexual, because if that's all you are bring to the table that's all you will receive. Make the transition today, ladies make yourselves wifeable but don’t forget that as a wife you need to be sexable too. Find that common ground and you will have a man eating out the palm of your hand.