Unwritten Rules

Have you ever just sat down, stared at someone dumbfound and thinking to yourself ‘what the hell’?  There are various circumstances that can lead to such a dilemma but the one I want to talk about today is that first night cap or that one night stand and the unwritten rules that go with such activities. Can you imagine the high level of awkwardness one experience in the morning of a one night stand after having a little too much to drink or sense the tension in the room when you are still around at 10 am when both parties agreed to one night of fun. So how do you avoid this awkwardness of staring at someone who wants you to leave as soon as possible; what do you do?Take my advice and learn some of the unwritten rules that I have decided to share with you.

1.Stick to the terms

Most times one night stands are agreed beforehand, we are doing this just once and then there are times when it  wasn’t supposed to happen but you mind was in a different place and it occurred anyway. When you sober up and realize what you’ve done, split! Don’t hang around to explain why we shouldn’t have done this or why we shouldn’t do it again, that will only complicate the already complicated situation. Instead, stick to the terms of the short term contract and forget the night before, if things are to get more serious later on, it will. Try not to force yourself onto someone who is not ready to accept that fate. 

2. Be extremely busy

If sticky to the terms is turning out to be easier said than done, it's time to pull out plan B. Plan B is simple, you just need to have a early morning plan that was planned last night. Wake up, put on your clothes, there is somewhere you have to be by 7. Even if you heart and soul is screaming for you to stay and cuddle, pack your stuff and prepare to leave. Let it be the person who is hosting who asks you if you have to go, then and only then you can overstay your welcome. Who knows, maybe another round and breakfast later.

3. Leave nothing behind

Whether it’s your first rodeo or you had to leave in a rush, try not to leave anything behind; especially important documents that are not easily replaced. Chances are whatever is left behind will be thrown out to avoid that awkward get together. Leaving stuff behind can send the wrong message and all parties would want to avoid that.

I know mentioning these unwritten rules has crushed a few toes but it is what it is. You cannot force your way into someone’s life by deciding to stay overtime, that may just lead to the person being annoyed which is totally worse than not getting a call back. Stick to the terms, leave, have something to do and try your best not to leave anything behind. Following these simple outlines may lead to something more than just a call back, just try it!